What have you been banned for on other forums?

[Kama]

It’s easy to say let it go until you’re the one going through it

[VoiceOfReasonPast]

You have nothing to lose but a bunch of douchebags.

[Kama]

Truth is I don’t wanna be angry anymore about it. I just don’t know how to. Get over it. Every time I try a voice and I keep saying no are you really gonna let them go and get away with what they did? Don’t you want justice? Don’t you want revenge?

And I thought the group being exposed and it falling apart, would’ve been enough for me, but then all I can think of is how they all got to spin it as they were innocent victims and they all basically got to get away with it and not just that be considered heroes for having to deal with Fred. Like it felt like I was the one who came out the most negatively since they were spreading. Fred’s narrative about me on. The farms and there wasn’t really anything I could do about it.. the fact that they weren’t dragged through the mud the same amount as Fred and and ended up being a net positive for all of them really pisses me off after all the shit they put me through,

But I get it it’s not worth it and I should let it go, but I don’t know how.,, Honestly, sometimes it feels like the only way I could get rid of it and finally let it go as if all their lives went to shit through some divine intervention or something.

But I don’t wanna keep being like this I have a happy life now. Hell I have a pretty great life right now and I am focusing on that but whenever I remember them at all, I just feel all this rage inside of me surface again and I just want it gone.

[rabidtictac]

It’s easy to say let it go until you’re the one going through it

Life is full of shit we all gotta go through.

One thing I learned about life is you have to let go of your internal narrative and your history. "These are how all the people wronged me." Carrying that shit with you is poison, even if it's 100% true. We all go through stuff. Whatever somebody has done to you, you cannot let it define who you are as a person. When you show to other people that you don't give a shit about whatever it was they did in the past, it demonstrates they no longer have any power over you. It doesn't mean you forgave them for the shit, but you aren't letting them drive the narrative of your story.

I guess what you have to confront is why you want to keep those negative feelings around, and why you want to hold onto that memory of being wronged by people who don't matter in your life anymore. They haven't been part of your life in forever. If you don't want to feel that way then it's time to start making changes.

I hear a lot of people complain about "I didn't get closure." Life is life. You get the closure you get. That's just fucking tough. You won't get any more closure in 20 years than what you have now. Do you want to be just as mad in 20 years about the SoK slandering you as you are today?

You've had time to process your emotions from when it happened. Now you can either do the work or not. If you don't, well you'll feel bitter about it until you do. I have known grown adults in their 60s who still fucking hold onto MINOR FUCKING SLIGHTS from their childhoods. They let it poison their relationships with siblings and parents because they are still mad about some shit that happened when they were 5, which wasn't even abusive.

Truth is I don’t wanna be angry anymore about it. I just don’t know how to. Get over it. Every time I try a voice and I keep saying no are you really gonna let them go and get away with what they did? Don’t you want justice? Don’t you want revenge?

The best revenge is you not caring anymore. The best justice is building an awesome life for yourself.

The only thing I can tell you to help you move past this is to really dig deep and ask yourself why you care so much and what is specifically preventing you from putting it behind you. What is the root emotion. Hurt? Betrayal? What is the lingering attachment that you can't let it go? Do you value the SoK members' opinions of you? Do they have any relevance in your life? Do the people in your life today believe the lies the SoK told about you?

The bottom line is ask yourself what does it benefit YOU to keep thinking about a moment when you were wronged 8 years ago? Accept that it happened and try to let it flow past you. If you need to stay away from places that remind you of dsp or other internet shit then maybe that is also healthy.

Oh yeah and something else to keep in mind is that sometimes that inner voice in your head (saying "don't let them get away with it!" or whatever) is actually fucking toxic as shit and you gotta ignore that guy.

[Le Redditeur]

It’s easy to say let it go until you’re the one going through it

I had my share of assholes in my life that caused some form of harm or another in the past. I also don't waste my time ruminating about those assholes who arent part kf my life anymore because, frankly, why would I give to them the power to still make my life worse?

[VoiceOfReasonPast]

The best revenge is you not caring anymore. The best justice is building an awesome life for yourself.

Don't be a Lupa. Be a Doge.

[Kama]

I’ve been wanting to talk through this stuff for a while now so thanks.. I know everyone telling me to let it go think I just ignore what they’re saying but I am listening. And you’re right. That inner voice is toxic. It’s just hard to ignore it when it feels like “yeah inner voice you’re right. They need to suffer. They deserve it.”honestly I know it’s not worth it and I should let it go but after stalking my Facebook even after the SoK dissolved and continuing to tell lies about me and shit when they think I don’t see it. It’s just hard to get rid of that rage. Like they should have been chased off the internet like Fred. Instead it’s like evil Sonny them being seen as the good guys while I was more moral than any of them and I get painted as being worse than Fred.. just makes me feel like there’s no justice in the world or maybe I’m in some alternate universe or evil just wins all the time in the real good people just get the bat shit happening to them. But I guess that’s just the inner voice talking though so maybe I just need to tell that voice to just fuck off. Like I said I’m trying my best and I’m trying to be better. It’s just really hard.

[Kugelfisch]

Real enough that I would talk with my ex on the phone or FaceTime for hours.



But fine zi get it. “Your friendships and shit we’re all online so get the fuck over it because I don’t treat the internet like I would socializing with strangers in the real world. Everyone is fake blah blah blah.”

Fine believe that if you want, but online relationships do in fact pay off in fact I’ve had a few online relationships with women where I was with them online at first, and then got with them off-line for a while as well. I had one bad experience because of the sons of Kajima, but that experience really scarred me..

Well yeah, obligatory: Fake and gay Internet shit isn't a relationship.

But I'm actually asking because of that "creep" allegation. If it's just about dumb Discord messages, that's a whole lot of nothing. I wouldn't worry about it.

And as my online friendships with the rest of that group in real life, usually the friends that I had would always have some sort of string attached. It’s hard for me to say that I ever had genuine friends in the real world so when I got with them I thought for the first time I found genuine friends that Had no string attached and fine. I was stupid for feeling that way too. I guess I never should’ve put my trust in them then.

Sure seems like it. If it's any consolidation, all my IRL friends eventually amounted to was either downright betrayal or both parties just moving on and losing sight of each other.
There's usually either strings attached or the friendship naturally runs its course.

Do people still care about ex SoK members? Seems to me they are all irrelevant.

[Kama]

Yeah, and I never had any drama with my IRL friends. I’m actually on good terms with all of them still. I guess when it comes to online people it’s just I tried being in a lot of communities and the people in them were either genuine assholes or so autistic that I just couldn’t get along with them. So the SoK what was the first time where I felt what I belonged somewhere online. It was so different than what I was used to that. I grew really attached to them and that fucked me over.

[ebin namefag]

Having friends sucks.